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10 Biggest Mistakes People Make in Party Conversation
50 Ways to Improve Your Conversations
10 BIGGEST MISTAKES PEOPLE MAKE IN PARTY CONVERSATION
From Don Gabor's, How to Start a Conversation & Make Friends
According to conversation expert, Don Gabor, "On a scale of 1 - 10 most people rate about a 3 when it comes to knowing how to make small talk, keeping the conversation going, changing topics and choosing the right time to end an encounter at parties. "
Here are the top ten blunders...
1. Having a negative attitude and anticipating rejection.
2. Displaying stay-away body language.
3. Remaining passive instead of being the first to say hello.
4. Asking only short-answer questions such as, "What do you do?"
5. Replying with only one-word answers without revealing additional information or topics of interest.
6. Talking too much without asking questions or listening for key words or free information from other person.
7. Talking too little without showing interest or enthusiasm.
8. Not introducing yourself and not using the other person's name.
9. Arguing about minor details and being a know-it-all.
10. Ending the conversation on a negative note.
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10 Biggest Mistakes People Make in Party Conversation
50 Ways to Improve Your Conversations
10 TIPS FOR REMEMBERING NAMES
From Don Gabor's, How to Start a Conversation & Make Friends
Dale Carnegie said, "A person's name is the sweetest sound in any language." These tips will get you started on the road to remembering names. With practice, you'll discover how easy it is to master this great conversational tool.
1. Give the introduction your complete attention.
2. Establish eye contact, smile and shake hands during the introduction.
3. Don't think about what you are going to say next.
4. Listen carefully for the name and immediately repeat it aloud.
5. Associate the new person's name with someone you know or know of with the same or similar name.
6. Associate the person's name with a physical or personal characteristic.
7. Picture the letter of the first name on the person's face.
8. Use the person's name periodically and especially at the end of the conversation.
9. If you forget the name, say: "Tell me your name again." Then repeat it and think of someone you know with the same name.
10. Associate some additional detail with the person's name to help you recall it at a later date.
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10 Biggest Mistakes People Make in Party Conversation
50 Ways to Improve Your Conversations
50 WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR CONVERSATIONS
From Don Gabor's bestselling book How to Start a Conversation & Make Friends
1. Introduce yourself to others.
2. Be the first to say hello.
3. Take risks. Don't anticipate rejection.
4. Display your sense of humor.
5. Be receptive to new ideas.
6. Ask a person's name if you have forgotten it.
7. Show curiosity and interest in others.
8. Tell others about the important events in your life.
9. Tell others about yourself and what you enjoy doing.
10. Make an extra effort to remember people's names.
11. Show others you are a good listener by paraphrasing their comments.
12. Communicate with enthusiasm and interest.
13. Go out of your way to meet new people.
14. Accept a person's right to be an individual.
15. Let the natural you come out when talking to others.
16. Be able to tell others what you do in a few short sentences.
17. Reintroduce yourself to someone who has forgotten your name.
18. Tell others something interesting or challenging about what you do.
19. Be aware of open and closed body language.
20. Use eye contact and smiling as your first contact with people.
21. Greet people you see regularly.
22. Seek common interests, goals, and experiences in those you meet.
23. Make an effort to help people if you can.
24. Let others play the expert.
25. Be open to answering ritual questions.
26. Get enthusiastic about other people's interests.
27. Balance talking and listening in a conversation.
28. Be able to speak about a variety of topics and subjects.
29. Keep abreast of current events and the issues that affect our lives.
30. Be open to other people's opinions and feelings.
31. Express your feelings, opinions, and emotions to others.
32. Use "I" when revealing your feelings concerning a personal topic.
33. Don't use the word "you" when you mean "I."
34. Show others that you are enjoying the conversation with them.
35. Invite people to join you for dinner, social events, or other activities.
36. Keep in touch with friends and acquaintances.
37. Ask other people for their opinions.
38. Look for the positive in those you meet.
39. Start and end conversation with a person's name and a handshake.
40. Take time to be cordial with your neighbors and coworkers.
41. Let others know that you want to get to know them better.
42. Ask others about things they have told you in previous conversations.
43. Listen carefully for free information.
44. Be tolerant of other people's beliefs if they differ from yours.
45. Change the topic of conversation when it has run its course.
46. Always search for the other person's "hot button."
47. Compliment others about what they are wearing, doing, or saying.
48. Encourage others to talk with you by sending out receptive signals.
49. Make an effort to see and talk to people you enjoy being with.
50. When you tell a story, present the main point first, and then add the supporting details based on the other person's interest in the topic.
To learn more about Don Gabor's books and programs, visit www.dongabor.com or contact him at 1-800-423-4203 or don@dongabor.com.
10 Biggest Mistakes People Make in Party Conversation
50 Ways to Improve Your Conversations
